To love means to value, to be attentive and thoughtful. Regardless of whether you are a couple right at the start of your relationship or committed in a long-term relationship, find love wherever you can.
True love doesn’t grow on trees, as far as we know. We aren’t quite sure where it comes from nor when it is going to happen. Some have attributed it to a baby figure shooting arrows, but who are we to judge. When you are lucky to be in love, it is probably the most fantastic feeling there is. Fragile as it is, love is put to the test in difficult times in a relationship. For many couples who wish to have children, this particular time of trying and waiting can also strain their love for each other. Passion is known to fade at times and being together can suddenly cease to be the utmost priority. Sexual intercourse could also lose its emotional depth and over time could become more like a means to an end. Therefore it is crucial to cultivate intimacy and maintain mutual affection.
There are some things you can do or do together with your significant other to counteract a budding monotony in the relationship. One of them is the kind act of giving gifts. A good and meaningful gift doesn’t have to be anything store bought or materialistic. Handmade presents or quality time are priceless as is. The person receiving the gift enjoys the attention and the thoughts and feelings that went into making the gift. In return, the person who gives the gift is delighted by the recipient’s joy and gratitude.
Our body reacts to gifts with the release of hormones. Not only when being on the receiving end, but also when giving a present. From the anticipation to the moment of getting the present and using it, brain regions responsible for emotions are active throughout. The gifting process is also accompanied by the neurotransmitters dopamine and oxytocin, which is known as the ‘happiness hormone’. Stress reducing serotonin also plays a major role in gift exchange. Especially when it comes to big gestures or surprises, the chemical cocktail in the brain can result in a longlasting high of happiness (up to weeks) and create a deeper emotional bond between people.
Giving a present is considered as an act of appreciation and mutual respect. A small act of attentiveness, whether occasionally or on certain dates, creates moments of affection and togetherness that keep lingering and invigorating the love between people. You could, for example, surprise your sweetheart with a couple’s massage or a Segway ride. There are no limits to creativity.